Give Respect to Get Respect

Respect is undoubtedly a highly conceptual idea that is well defined by dictionaries but nonetheless means little different things to different people. Merriam-Webster dictionary defines the verb “to respect” as “To take notice of; to regard with special attention; to regard as worthy of special consideration; hence, to care for; to heed”. It is my understanding that there are a lot of things that go along with the feeling of respect. However, it is also my understanding that even by possessing the needed qualities to be respected, one will not be unless he or she respects others. “In order to get the respect you need to be able to give it, and in order to give it you need to have it, otherwise you don’t have the gift to share”(Kathy Buckley, 2019).
I have chosen my former manager, whose name I will keep private. Since she is a manager, she obviously possessed such traits as confidence, seriousness, and resourcefulness. However, I am focusing on a few different aspects that are needed to be respected. All of them in my mind basically constitute an overall great human being. Yes, she was strict sometimes, but she was always exceptionally fair at the same time. When somebody from the office had messed up or had an encounter with another coworker, she would never take a side and tried to listen to both sides and come up with a rational explanation. She was a very fun and knowledgeable person to talk to and get inspiration from. I myself turned to her when I needed help, and I received it, even though it was not related to work. What is also notable, is that I would not consider her to be a sweet person. Hands down, I would feel her look in the back of my head if she looked at me, she has a very persuasive and facts-oriented speech style, and nonetheless, she never crossed the line of respect with her conversation partner.
It is essential to treat people with respect in order to be respected. An actor may be exceptional at acting, a singer vocally precise at singing, a scientist at his/her thorough studies, but people are not going to respect them if they treat other people as though people are less than. Let us take into account various dictators around the world. I am sure they are great at what they are doing, like keeping people in fear and order, but I sincerely do not think there is anything different than fear in those people when it comes to their attitudes towards their “leaders”.

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  1. Hi Viktor,
    Your former manager reminds us that we all lead by example and you never know who can feel at ease due to your presence or can learn and benefit from all you do. I like the fact that you mentioned she was not exactly sweet but yet had a multitude of other quality and traits you felt made her overall great and felt strong enough to honor her in this post. We all are a lot of things and some may take to us or relate to us and some may not but the fact that you found someone in a job that you admired and learned from consider yourself lucky because we all know what it’s like to not have any support and that can make or break wanting to do the job at hand to the best of our ability.

  2. “However, it is also my understanding that even by possessing the needed qualities to be respected, one will not be unless he or she respects others.” That part! I also echo Laurens sentiment about your former manager!

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